I’ve just returned from a trip home to the Bay Area. It was a jam-packed 10 days, full of adventure, laughter, and reunions with people I love. I got to see kids and adults, museum exhibits, big trees, fog, and a sweltering sun in a blue, blue sky. The time at home filled me up and helped me prepare for my second year of graduate school.

Last night when I got in to Chicago, though, I also felt the relief of coming home. The sound of the lake lapping at the shore, the tall buildings downtown, the clang of the El trains. It all feels like home. So, if home is where the heart is, does that mean my heart is two-timing me?

Taking all the people I love out of the equation, there are things in both locations that attract me. Chicago has seduced me with its wide, sandy beaches and the long stretches of bike paths along the lake. The architecture that defines the downtown skyline and identifies each neighborhood keeps me interested in learning more. I have found a comfortable peace here in this home. I am happy. Yet, when I landed in California and saw the hills hugging Berkeley and Oakland, the fog creeping in over the bay, and when I smelled the sage on my hike in Marin, my heart swelled. This is home to my soul.

So for all you who worry that Chicago’s seduction will keep me here, put that worry aside. I may stay longer than you think is necessary, but I will always come back to California. It is the home that makes my heart sing.

You can see the entire collection of photos from my trip on Flickr.

This time last year, I was on my own for the first time in my new home town. After an amazing trek through select National Parks with my sister and a tour of small town Dairy Queen’s, I had to drive her to Midway and say goodbye for a time. I knew I would make it on my own in this strange land where people say “fantastic,” but I was already heartbroken with the notion of missing friends and family for a few years. And look at me now, breaking free of the training wheels and finding my way among the Chicagoans.

A lot has happened in the past year:

  • I learned my way around a new city, on foot, bike, bus, train, and by car. My favorite modes of transportation are still foot and bike.
  • I embraced the generosity of my neighbors (as I sit here typing, one of the Fitzgerald brothers is chatting with Freddie across the gangway about “sauerkraut, Polish sausage, and the beauties on the beach” — I kid you not!)
  • I marveled at the amazing weather the midwest has to offer. Winter wasn’t that bad.
  • I learned the difference between speech and language, and I acquired an entirely new vocabulary to describe the different ways we communicate. /ænd ͜aɪ gɑt tu lɚn ə nu w͜eɪ tu ɹ͜aɪt/
  • I had my heart broken a few times, saying goodbye to Cleo and to a love I thought might last
  • Each week, I gather up all my confidence and sit with clients, hoping to guide them toward better communication
  • I’ve made friendships that will last through the ages
  • I’ve built a home for myself, a place for this next phase of my life.

There have been hard days over the past year, to be sure, but mostly it has been wonderful. As much as I miss my friends and family in CA, I know this was the right choice for me right now. That confidence buoys me and helps me look toward the next adventure. Oh, yes. It has been  a good year!

2009

July 15, 2009

2008

July 15, 2008

/hæpi ænɪvɚsɹi ʃɪkɔg͜oʊ/

at home in Chicago

at home in Chicago

You know, when you think about it, Dorothy had it pretty good in terms of transportation. She just had to chant, “There’s no place like home….” and click her heels together to get back home. I tried that in Oakland, but it didn’t work. Instead, I had to wait for a cab and sit patiently on two planes as I was transported back to Chicago. And I had to do it while managing an anxious, fluffy orange kitty named Cleo.

Getting Cleo into the cat carrier – a super cool mesh bag that I could sling across my shoulders – was no easy feat. I think there should be written instructions on those things indicating that it is a two human job. I managed to get her in the bag, but not without some cursing on my part and some yowling on her part. Without thinking it all the way through, I left Cleo in the carrier on the bed while I went into the living room to get something from my bag. The next thing I knew, I heard a thump and a very angry cat. She managed to scoot the bag off the edge of the bed, that silly cat! With only a few minutes to spare, we made it out to the front yard to wait for the cab that would take us to the airport.

Cleo meowed a lot on the drive to the airport, letting me know that she was not happy to be cooped up in her fancy new carrier. Either that or there was too much wind. I’m still learning to interpret. What I do know is that she picked up on my nervousness once we got to the airport and she piped down considerably. I kept hoping that the TSA rules had changed and I wouldn’t really have to take her out of the carrier to go through security. Surely they understand how difficult it is to wrangle a cat into one of these things. Maybe if I told them the story of how angry she got when she fell off the bed…. or that she’s retired from the feline KGB and doesn’t carry any weapons… It was no use. I made it to the security gate and the TSA employees told me I needed to remove Cleo from the carrier, hold her as I walked through the metal detector, and provide the attendant with my boarding pass. Oh, and that I should get her back in the carrier as soon as possible so she didn’t run away. Yeah, thanks for the advice.

When I opened the cat carrier, Cleo was curled into a small ball and gave me a look that said “Really?!? Are you really going to move me?” I took a deep breath and pulled her out of the carrier, put it on the conveyor belt, and stood in line to walk through the metal detector. Well, the guy in front of me was wearing a ton of jewelry and he had to walk through three times! A helpful travel hint: avoid annoying your fellow travelers and leave your heavy gold chains at home! OK, moving on. Cleo started to squirm which made me hold her tighter which made her squirm more. It was not an easy situation. Once we managed to get through the security gate, she was happy to crawl back into her bag of safety. Thank goodness!

The Angel Island Ferry

The Angel Island Ferry


The rest of the trip was fairly drama-free. Cleo did not wail like a newborn, she did not bite like a toddler, and she did not disturb any of the other passengers on the plane. In fact, I don’t think my seat-mates even knew I had a cat with me until we landed and I pulled her up on my lap (in the carrier, of course). Cleo kept quiet on the cab ride home until I got a phone call and started talking. Then she gave me a little piece of her mind. That’s when I knew that everything would be ok.

Oh yeah, the trip to CA? It was fantastic. (see my Flickr photos for proof)

Today is the day. I’m packing a bag and heading to O’Hare this afternoon to fly back to CA. I can hardly wait!

I had a great weekend with my CA friend — exploring new-to-me spots downtown on Saturday night and showing her around my neighborhood on Sunday. One of the best parts was being able to step into a conversation so easily and to have a history with each other, a kind of short-hand language we could use to communicate. As much as I’ve enjoyed meeting new people here in Chicago, I find it exhausting sometimes to have to relay my so-called story to people so they have some context. With Chrissie in town over the weekend, we just picked up right where we left off and had a great time chattering on about everything and nothing.

So, you can imagine my excitement about going home and seeing even more friends and family who know me and love me. It is going to be a great visit. And, in my own stubborn and practical way, I’ve decided not to take my laptop with me. That means the blog will be quiet for the next week. For the curious, here’s what I’ll be doing:

  • basking in the Bay Area fog
  • eating good, fresh veggies
  • devouring CA style Mexican food
  • laughing with friends
  • reuniting with my cat
  • walking in the hills or on the beach
  • haunting some East Bay bars
  • smiling from ear to ear